To Answer Some Questions...

Yesterday Rob and I spoke at our church, nlcf, at all three services and talked about adopting Riley. It all went very well, but I was really nervous even though I've spoken/sang in church plenty of times before. We are really excited to start getting the word out and it was wonderful to introduce Riley to our church family. I found myself answering a lot of the same questions from people (which is fine!), so I thought I'd put some of the "Frequently Asked Questions" up here :).

1. "So when do you get to bring Riley home?"
We only have a best guess as to when that might happen. Riley isn't "cleared" for international adoption until February 2011, so that would be the absolutely earliest he could leave the country. However, Riley's government shuts down between the months of November and February, so they stop accepting adoptive family "Dossiers" (your official translated application to Riley's government) this month. There's no way our dossier will be ready this month, so the earliest we can submit is February. Once we submit it could take several months to get official approval. In addition to that, Rob and I can't travel until May because I have to defend my thesis in either March or April, and the adoption process is a 5-6 week in-country stay. So we HOPE to travel in May, and bring him home in June.

2. "What would happen to Riley if he wasn't adopted?"
Riley has no future in his country. Children like him are considered a "burden to society" and often sent away to mental institutions at the age of 5 where most die within a few years. He will always live with the stigmas of "orphan" and "HIV+", meaning he wouldn't be able to get a job. Unlike in the US, where legally you are not obligated to tell anyone about your HIV status, in his country he would have to disclose that information to potential employers.

3. "Do you have the money to adopt him?"
No, we don't. This is a leap of faith and we need all the help we can get. We have enough to cover to up-front expenses (about $5000); the rest of the expenses (about $20,000) will come when it's time to travel in May. So we have some time to fundraise, but not an infinite amount of time. The sooner we raise the money the better.

4. "How can I help?"
PRAY pray pray! And please, consider giving Riley a birthday gift. He'll be two years old on Dec. 3 and we are having a birthday party for him. This is the best gift you could ever give a child: the gift of a family of his own. This money isn't for us, it's ALL for him. If you want to help fundraise, we'd love to hear from you. We've got some fundraisers planned and we'll announce them as they begin, but the reality is that those can only do so much. We are praying for God to move in a few people's hearts to donate a large amount. If you feel called to do this, please send me an email so I can tell you the best way to donate a large sum (to avoid PayPal fees).

Thanks so much for your prayers and support! They mean the world to us and to Riley.

A New Picture!....kinda.

Yesterday we got the full-size picture of Riley! It's really the same picture but you can see more of him. For some reason I am just captivated by it!

I don't know what it is about being able to see him head to toe, but I just want to snatch him up and cuddle him! It's also given us a clue about his cerebral palsy symptoms. Up until now all we knew what that he has "mild cerebral palsy but is able to stand on his own". From the picture it looks like his right leg is affected in some way but his left leg looks ok. It's not a lot to go on, but we'll take anything we can get at this point!

We purchased some books on children with CP and I started reading through them a few weeks ago. To be honest I started to freak out a little bit and had to stop reading. There's just so many different forms of CP, and we have no idea what Riley's specific symptoms are, but reading about all the possibilities is just overwhelming. Hopefully we can get his medical records soon.

A homestudy update: Rob and I have both had our physicals and are healthy! Not much of a surprise, but still nice to know and very important for Riley's country to know. I'm getting ready to send in a boat load of papers to Forever Families, then we need to finish our online coursework, and then I think we'll be basically done with the homestudy! Yippee!

Pray Without Ceasing...

Got some bad news today: Riley's government is trying to pass a law that would suspend all intercountry adoptions with the U.S. That includes kids with special needs and adoptions that are already in progress. It could be passed as early as the end of this year.

Here's the official announcement

I know from talking with Vika's orphanage facilitator that bills like this have tried to be passed before and not succeeded. Ultimately God is in control of the situation. Please please please pray, pray without ceasing...

The lives of hundreds of precious children are at stake.

Homestudy Interviews Completed!

We have reached a milestone in our homestudy process today: Our home inspection and interviews are done! Our wonderful social worker Clair, from Forever Families, drove down yesterday and met us at our house, took a tour, and did our couples interview. Normally there is a three-week waiting period between the home visit and the individual interviews, and for the individual interviews we would have to travel up to Warrenton, VA to the FF office. However, because we're doing an independent adoption, we don't have the waiting period normally required by adoption agencies. So today Rob and I drove up to meet Clair near her hotel in Roanoke (there were NO rooms to be had in Blacksburg last night due to the VT/GT game!) and we met at a Panera. We took turns with her for the individual interviews and they went really well. I of course talked a lot more than Rob so my interview took longer :).

Our next step is to get alllll the remaining paperwork sent in! We have a lot done already, so that's good. We also have some online adoption coursework to complete. Then Clair will send us a draft of the homestudy report so we can check it over, then the draft will go to Reece's Rainbow for inspection, and THEN our homestudy will be done! Which means THEN we can apply to U.S. Immigration for official government approval to bring Riley home!

Next after that is putting together what's called our "Dossier" to send over to Riley's country for THEIR approval! Phew...I'm tired just thinking about it. One step at a time...eyes on the prize...saving the life of a beautiful child.

On a completely unrelated note, here's a pic of the day:

Neko waking up from a nap on my lap this afternoon :)

This week I have been napping like it's my job because of a sinus infection. I even took the whole day off Tuesday to rest. Luckily I always have one or two kittens to keep me company. I hope Riley is a good napper!

"Riley"

What's in a name?

On RR they often give the children an alias to protect their identity. "Riley" is most definitely an alias for our little guy. My favorite reaction to his name was when I told my translator friend, Masha, about Riley and she said: "Riley- what a strange name!". Yes, Masha, that's not his real name.

What is his real name? We don't know. I'm sure we'll find out at some point (anyone who's been through the adoption process before have any insight on that?), but he will come home to the name Riley. We just can't imagine calling him anything else! It fits his cute little face perfectly.

Once we do learn his real name we won't be able to share it with you on here. But his American name will be Riley Eugene. He'll be the third StClair to share the initials RES: his daddy is Robert Eugene and his grandpa is Reginald Eugene. We're so excited to pass on the tradition. I'm not sure "Riley" is ever a name I would have picked out myself, but for him I love it. Riley Eugene, we can't wait to meet you!

New Blog Design and Button

So excited to have this new blog design from Penny Lane Designs! We also now have a "button" which you can put on your own blog to help spread the word. Please consider doing this if you can! It will mean so much to us and to Riley.

On another note, we have our home inspection coming up tomorrow followed by interviews on Friday for our home study. I don't know why but I'm nervous about it. More so about the interviews than anything else. I don't think there's any reason to be worried about it but I am just a worrier by nature. :) Please pray that all goes smoothly!

Speaking of home inspection, guess it's time to clean the bathrooms... :)

National Adoption Month

I found out yesterday that November is National Adoption Month!

This is such perfect timing as we get started fundraising for Riley's adoption!

You don't have to adopt to participate in raising adoption awareness. Here are some things you can do:

• Tell your friends and family about Riley!
• If you have a blog, put a link to this webpage on it or add our button (coming soon...).
• Post a link to this page on Facebook!
• Give Riley a birthday gift: He will turn two years old on Dec. 3 and we are having a party!
• Have an idea for a fundraiser? Please let me know: JessicaLStClair at gmail dot com.

We truly believe that an adoption is a community effort. God never meant for this to be done by two people alone, but rather by a community coming together to bring in a needy child. We wouldn't be adopting if we didn't feel we have the love and support from our community and church family at nlcf.

Absolutely all funds raised for Riley will go to his adoption expenses when it comes time to pick him up. If for whatever reason we are unable to adopt Riley, all the money we raise will stay with him through Reece's Rainbow as a grant to help the next family adopt him.

Will you prayerfully consider giving Riley a birthday gift this month? Even the smallest amount helps (American dollars go a lot farther in Riley's country!). Thanks!