How do you tell if a baby is grieving?
That's the question I've been asking myself the past few days. I think Lily is grieving her losses, which is very natural, but it's hard on this Mama who feels a bit helpless.
So why do I think Lily is grieving?
Well, she hasn't smiled much in the last week. She wasn't smiling a lot to begin with, so this is especially hard for me. There is a reason I don't have any good pictures of her smiling: she doesn't. Her self-soothing behaviors have gotten more destructive. We took her out of the crib because she started banging her head so much. She's been scratching at her ears constantly and they are bleeding, inside and out. She has scratch marks all over her face. She's been a lot fussier.
To be fair, she also isn't feeling well. She's had a fever on and off since Friday. Her nose is stuffy and snotty and she hates it being cleaned. Sometimes I feel like all I do is torture her! From one form of torture to the next...sigh.
Anyone reading this have any insights? Been there, done that? Wisdom, advice? Or just words of encouragement? I can use all of those things right now.